Yes you're going through the same emotions I've been for the last 4 months. Angry, Soft, Angry, Confused, Soft, Angry, Frustrated, JUST WANT TO PULL YOUR HAIR OUT.
All I know is in time their true colors for what they are now will show. It just sometimes takes alot of trial and error for it to come to full fruition. I guess each time we backslide and scrape our knees we get a little more tougher, a little more wiser, and a little more "numb" so it doesn't hurt as much.
Gm you'll have to excuse me for asking this, because I probably already did. But how did your H act towards you the last year? The last 2 - 3 years? Did you see changes in his behavior? Did he start to act more selfishly?