The end appears near

[totallydevoted]

midwest...sorry for your sitch. It's so hard to be here...so many, it gets depressing that our society treats M with such disrespect. But, you seem to have the right attitude going forward. You can only control what you do and no one else. Just be thankful that there are no children involved in all this...they are the ones that truly get hurt. And, unfortunately, since it is so easy to D...the mad cycle continues for the next generation. M is a life-long committment in my opinion...I also take it seriously but, too, have a W that has completely checked out yet has confirmed that it is over. It tears me apart every waking second I think of it...I still love my W dearly and I cannot believe that our R, and our family, is broken beyond repair. But, she needs to also focus on herself...and understand what she's truly doing. She's following the "script" of a MLC...and there is nothing I can do about it. I just hope that she moves on productively, becomes a stronger person while I stay a supportive friend to her and a loving father to my children. And who knows, maybe our paths will cross again when we both are stronger and more independent to have a healthy, respectful, loving R.

But, I am here to tell you that it does slowly get better...especially if you concentrate on yourself, to make you a better you. Eventually, life is worth living again because of the enlightenment you receive when you truly focus from within.

Hang in there my friend...let your heart be your guide, it will always lead you in the right direction. I also look back at the many instances when I could have done/said something different by letting go of all the petty things in our life. But, no chance to change it now...and we all have to live with our decisions/actions. Again, it will get better...stay focused and positive. Easier said than done, I know...but we are all here for each other...and together we will all get through this.