Are there any meetup groups where you are? Have you volunteered for an organization that you have an interest in? Might be a chance to meet someone with common interests.
What part of the country are you in, people may have more ideas based on here you are. Also I get the wanting to date thing but you need to take the time to heal and work on yourself. There isn't any rush.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory