Thanks Brit...it does seem her wall has shortened a bit. I truly believe staying upbeat, being a friend and supportive with no expectations has been a great 180 for me. She does seem to take notice. I do touch her but only a slight caress of arm and shoulder as I compliment her or say hello or goodbye, another 180...but the hug was brand new for her.

A mediation is basically a 3rd party helping you divide the assets and come to an agreement for custody/support. It's not a D per se but the mediator can help file it. It's cheaper, and quicker, frown if the D is amicable so the courts don't get clogged up with people's "petty" differences. The judge has the agreement all worked out in front of him/her to decide whether or not to sign off on it. What a mediation can do however is show a couple that a D just may not be in their best interest...gives them that 3rd party to validate some things that both may not have thought of while being emotionally driven in their decision to D.

I'm not expecting my W to change her mind during all this and I am expecting the worst so I'll be prepared to stay calm and polite, but my W has stated that her biggest problem with me is my "stinginess with money" and this may prove to her that that's not true. And with that out of the way her heart just may open a tiny bit to think about our R and how it really is something that can be saved.

We'll see...4 more days and I will know everything. In the meantime, I'm getting all my ducks in a row, to be prepared and trying to be the best possible me I can be.

Me:44, W: 39
D:16, D:14, D:11(special needs)
M:17, T:21+
Bomb:3/18/12
W contacted mediator for D:3/27/12
Separate since bomb
Mediation, signed agreement 5/17/12
No talk of D since mediation