My H has also said that maybe in the future we'll be able to date again and see what happens, but that first we have to D and try to move on. I guess I just don't see why you would D if you think that there could be a chance of reconciliation, but I'm not in charge of the sitch, so it really doesn't matter what I think.

My H had his son move 1,000 miles away last year and is currently in a job where he and his counterpart (who just gave notice on Friday) are treated with little respect. I think that these are just a few of the reasons why it's not working so well between us right now.

I'm also trying to be supportive, without pressure, in hopes that he'll get his life back the way he wants it and maybe that will include a place for me. It's just hard to simultaneously have hope that we will get back together and also prepare to be on my own in case that never happens.


M36 XH34
M-5 T7
4/11 H confused
5/11 ILYB
6/11 OW discovered
7/11 I move out, OW over
5/12-OW2,done->new EA, but H wont file
9/12 H "best bf ever" to EA/OW3
3/13 H/OW break up
H files 4/13
D 6/18/13