Hi Tinker, I've gotten a lot of the same script statements from my black/white H that you have gotten:
Originally Posted By: tinker
Since the text I have had some sweeping statements from him - 'somethings missing', we're not going to be ok', and 'I'd try if I thought things would change'. I've learnt that my H is very black and white, and reacts to how he's feeling in that moment.

Yesterday he told me that he knows we get on really well, but doesn't feel over our entire relationship (the last 6 years) that we've ever had a great time, and if it hasn't happened yet then it never will.


Have you talked to your DB coach since you moved back home? That's a pretty big step/change in your relationship that might require some more fine-tuning of your DB'ing.

Just keep reminding yourself about no expectations, and remember that you can't control any of H's expectations, you can only control your actions and reactions.

Does your brother know about your situation? Can you maybe bring a supportive friend along to the wedding? Can you schedule your own holiday in June? Keep us posted!