I would check with Purgatory and 25 -- Purgatory also has a military pension issue with her H. I thought in her case she was benefitted by staying officially married longer. I thought the longer you stay in before a divorce is finalized, the more of the pension you are entitled to, so you're benefitted by dragging your heels. Ask them though, I'm no expert!

(Obviously if you want to continue to DB, then no rush to do anything divorce wise, just let it hang)

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015