Golf Mom --it sounds like you are doing just great. Realize that a man in MLC is really not himself at all --like Snodderly has said many times --he is the mirror image of the man you once knew. Talking to a man in MLC can be quite a challenge --because you still want to relate to him as before --and yet if you try things will really fall apart! Just keep reminding yourself that your husband is "in a different place" --be aware that he also may not have your best interests at heart --only his --and be wary of financial and legal issues. In some ways you are dealing with a spoiled little kid in a grown man's body --and you have to be very careful about anything that could affect you financially or legally. And yes --there are reconciliations --but often they can take several years. I have just witnessed one recently and the MLC spouse was gone for 12 years --but thanks to the incredible fortitude and insight of the left behind wife --this relationship now is very much alive and well! Hope you find this encouraging. But in the meantime --find some new paths for yourself --and make the most of life for you and your family. You will be glad that you did ---Ottocat
