Golf Mom, One thing that I just thought of. We talk so much about how it takes such a long time for the MLCers to travel their journey before any sort of reconcillations are to be underway.
I think one thing we all need to remind ourselves of is how much time WE NEED. Look how much pain and heartache and detatchment we really need to work through and come to grips with, so if and when the "prodigal son" does return, we really can handle it with grace, dignity, detatchment, understanding and patience. WE really must travel a journey of our own to get there. And it's a long one!
In my opinion serious detatchment must be with us, yet at the same time total understanding of MLC and total acceptance of what happened, and being able to let that anger finally go and forgive.
I know for me that is the ONLY way I could EVER be friends with XH, and feel good about it.
I now know that I still have a long way to go because Im still just so angry. My anger lingers because Im in a new place...remembering oh so many things that were not nice, and realizing how I chose not to pay attention.
