The thing I am struggling the most with is knowing how to change. I have worked hard to be a good father, provider and I feel I have accomplished this and gotten better over time. Clearly I have not been the best husband but I dont know why. Can you be too soft? I have let her have more freedom in the last 6-12 months to pursue her interests as I felt this was reasonable after being nothing but a mum for 5 years. I have always tried to be affectinate and tell her how beautiful she looks etc whereas she ahs never really initiated affection or sex in very long time. But thsi was normal for us because she had weird ideas that if she "seduced me" that makes her a whore even though I am her husband. I have thought back to who I was when we first dated and that person is still me but now I am also a father and provider. Any help appeciated.
