I'm a WAW who wants back

[needgrace]

Hi Brit,
So glad Cadet has stopped by. He has so much wisdom.

At first, I would take the positive conversations w/ W as a sign that things were changing... and sometimes they would and W would want to try to R... but the timing was not right, her change came more from guilt and things I said which made her think versus her really feeling the desire to R from within her. Hence, it never lasted.

She needs this journey to find herself. It may or may not lead back to me, that I realize. I felt like you did about your H. that she will just drift, that is her nature. But I have learned that I have to let her drift and not keep trying to change the tide to bring her to me. I hate it though, it is not my nature to drift, I am a doer and I feel so frustrated by this lack of control... I read/plan/love to think/stretch/solve.. Waiting...not doing anything...UGH

But I am learning.

And you are doing wonderfully to be so new to this and so patient and insightful!!

((( )))