He asked for divorce after coming back from Iraq..

[A&J2009]

H moved to California. havent talked to him or heard from him for 2 weeks. I tried to stay busy and not think about him all the time, went to the gym, met with a girl friend a couple of times, hung out with my sister and worked hard. 3 days ago he wrote me himself, which surprised me. he asked how have I been and we talked on facebook for a little bit. he was on the road, from Illinois to Cali at that moment and was staying at a hotel. first it was ok, told me that he bought a new car, saving money for a motorcycle and everything is good. I tired to sound positive and told him that i'm proud of him getting a new job and all his changes in his life. then H asked what are my plans for future, i wanted to tell him everything i feel about it, that we had our dream and he kicked me out of it and now he's living it by himself and asking me what is my dream now. so not fair! but i told him i'm taking each day at a time, working hard, spending more time with my family.

H said that my dad wrote a letter to him saying that we should think really hard before making such a big decision as divorce. and if you have any doubts dont rush into divorce.
and H said - well i have been thinkin about it. have you?
your doing your own thing and im doing mine.
your going out doing whatever and so am i
and i just dont see it working.
you added back guy friends. your going out.
didnt even tell me you left to Finland.
just stopped talking. going out.
im not throwing it in your face because
im going out and doing stuff to.
i just dont see us being able to work
past everything if we would try.

he also said he's not cheating but talking to other people.
and then he said he needs to go to sleep and left.

its all so disappointing and sad. I dont know what to think and dont know what to do.

He sounds like he's moved on already and doesnt even miss me. and doesnt have any second thoughts about us being together. H's so sure we're not gonna be able to be together even if we try. he's very jealous person and doesnt trust me, he's sure that i cheated on him already and doesnt want to hear anything, i went dark and thought that this time of him not hearing anything from me will make him miss me but it only made him think that i gave up on our marriage, going out and cheated on him.