Hi NG! How are you?!? I need to go lurk on your thread in a minute. H once told me after we split pre GF that I had made him a better person and he will always be grateful that we were together because he is infinitely more interesting and more involved politically and socially than he was before he met me. He said he would always have me to thank for that. So I made my own list post GF of all the things I loved about him and all the things I was thankful for about the relationship.
Side note: what was strange is so many of the things I loved where things that drove a wedge between us. IE He is always there for his friends...I complained about him doing things for others rather than hanging out with me.

My IC once said to think about two people in a R as two trains and sometimes the tracks run parallel and then break off to continue in different directions. Not everything is meant to be forever but that doesn't meant that it's less meaningful.

Random thoughts:

I read something that said if you're worried about something it means it hasn't happened. If it happens you'll deal with it then, but if you're worried that means it isn't happening right now. Just be happy about what's happening right now.
So when I start to worry that he'll stay with this girl forever, marry her, have babies I remember if I'm worried that means it hasn't happened.

We talk a lot about pursuing/chasing on the board. I read some advice that explained it really clearly. If you think about when you go into a shop and an assistant comes up to you and won't leave you alone and keeps trying to talk up a model of television or something..how do you feel? No one wants to be SOLD they want to feel like they CHOSE and bought. Now if that sales person comes up to you and says "wow you picked one of the best models, you must have noticed the great picture..not many people pick up on that" It changes the whole dynamic. It sounds like manipulation but really it's not. It's the opposite. Because they're choosing. You can hope they choose you, but can't push. Support their choices, don't push. That's what I'm trying to do.

My horoscope said my mantra today was Be consistent in thought and action. My thought and action is Patience and Space.