I am so upset right now! After two weeks my H finally asked S15 if he wanted to do something. So he picked him up at 3:30 so he wouldn't have to see me and, guess what, he dropped him off at 5:00! How can he see so little of his kids??? The last time he picked up the boys it was the same thing. I sense that he sees them just enough to be somewhat in their lives and then he is free to run off and be single. This is all so wrong and hurtful! My kids are being mistreated and cheated. What should I do about this? My attorney asked me to keep a calendar with the time he sees them noted, so I'm doing that. I feel like hauling his butt into court, but on what grounds? How can a person make a conscious choice to create children and then disregard them like this? I'm trying to put all of this together. A couple of weeks ago he happened to mention how he hardly ever plays poker (well that was his favorite escape when he lived here). Either he's short on money or he's smittened with a specific OW. When we first met it was at least a month before I even knew that he played poker. We spent every minute that we could together, fell in love (whatever the heck that means) and then he sprang it on me. Gradually it became a big part of his life and kept him away from me and, later, us. I must have been the classic enabler. What is going on here? I couldn't get him to stay home with us. He either wanted us to be doing something specific (something that he wanted to do) or he was off to play poker. Now he hardly ever plays? What's the reason? And if he has free time why isn't he spending it with his kids? Is he really sick enough that he's hiding his whole other life? Is this typical MLC behavior?
