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[jc180]

I am concerned about having a good co-parenting relationship with my stbx. However, I don't want to continue our current dynamic where I am the who carries all of the responsibility. How can we have a good post divorce relationship if she refuses to acknowledge her role in the divorce. All I hear from her is how she is a "good person" and I'm a darkness in her life. This just sets up an adversarial situation which puts my son in the middle. According to her current state of mind everything is my fault. Typical MLC behavior. Now what happens when we have a difference in opinion on what to do with our son when a situation occurs? Let me tell you I fully expect her to first blame me then put the responsibility to come up with a solution on me. since the begining she has not shown a true understanding of what divorce will be like. She has already indicated that she expects me to still be her emotional support by her behavior. How do I live in this situation where on one hand I'm liar, cheat and manipulator and on the other I'm a fantastic dad (all her words)?