So sorry for what you're going through. I have recently had some major spouts of anger and have taken it out on my H. It feels good for a while and then I begin to feel remorseful. Things may be different for you because your W has been saying awful things to you. But making things ugly between the two of you could really put a strain on the future for your S. Just something to think about.
Me: 32 H: 32 M 9 yrs #1 D7 #2 S5 #3 D2 Bomb 8/12/11 H moved out 8/14/11 PA started w/H & OW in 1/12 - found out 3/24/12 Got my own place 8/25/12 H & OW move in together 9/15/12 Still married.