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[Broken74]

Watched Swingers for the first time last night. As a number of vets have said on here, that should be required viewing for anyone dealing with a WAS. I wholeheartedly agree with this assessment, it is really a wake up call to see and I will probably be watching it again. I can see myself in Mikey all the way through the movie, and the timing is almost the same, difference is I am dealing with my W, not a girlfriend, but he had been dating his girl over twice as long than I have known my W... I am almost at the point that he was at the end of the movie. My W is seemingly just starting to turn the ship around a bit, but if she picks up the phone to call me it is more than likely that I could have better things to do. There is a an extremely large pool of caring, intelligent, beautiful and eligible women in the world. One in particular has caught my attention and if the W does double back I am going to have a significant decision to make.

I did drop a very simple Mothers day card in the mail to her today. Nothing overtly romantic, wrote a couple of lines to the effect she was the strongest mother I have ever known and that her kids are blessed to have her as their mother. Mentioned I have learned from my Dad and my 1/2 brother that shared DNA is not required to have a loving/strong parent child relationship, and that I wish I had learned that sooner, and wished her a special day.

That was a 180 for me, so that's why I sent the card. After watching Swingers I'm going to go totally dark now, including doing nothing for our anniversary on Monday 5/21 unless Cheryl advises otherwise on Monday. The switch finally flipped in that why am I going to recognize they hiring date for a job she decided to fire me from? I'll have $200 worth of framed lighthouse art to do something with now, if something changes down the road that will come in handy lol.

I still could use some additional opinion on a poll.

I continue to contribute to my stepchildrens 529 college savings accounts at this time. I am doing this for them, not for her, with no expectations. I think this is a good idea as it shows my unconditional love and that I am supporting them in every way I can. Feedback I've received so far points to this being a good idea, would anyone construe this as pursuing behavior?

Since it's for them and not for her I hope not, as I plan on continuing to do it.

Enjoy your weekend and good luck to all in your respective sitch's!