Thanks for the replies - its good to hear from people who have been through the same and especially "from the other side" in Brits' case.
Just one thing tho - she hasnt said she wants to work on it at this point, just that she cant see us being together at the moment, but she wouldnt rule it out either - even now I feel like she is communicating without actually communicating if that makes sense.
I have only contacted her about arrangements for the kids this last week, and I try to be breezy, pleasant and polite wherever possible and in all honesty I have felt much better within myself because of it.
I miss her terribly though, and I still worry that she may notice the changes but then meet someone else and in all honesty I am not sure how I would cope with that - but maybe I just need to concentrate on the here and now rather than stressing myself out with images of a future that may not even happen!!
As a question for you Brit - did you feel that you didnt have "that feeling" for your H anymore? And how long did it take you to realise that maybe deep down you really did have those feelings, how long did it take your H to detach and stop pursuing?
Thanks for taking the time to reply, it is a great help!!
