In other news you'd think he's signed up for a boy scout badge first he volunteers to do all this medical running around for me and tonight he volunteered to drive 100 miles round trip to pick up a piece of furniture if I win it on ebay.
Sounds like his love language is acts of service... but on the receiving end of it, is he a words of affirmation person? In other words, does he totally eat it up if you gush over this and thank him?
I personally think if you can stick to your guns about being slow and steady to win the race that you might have a really great chance of having another go at it. You really do remind me a lot of Nickel, but you got this sooner than she did. It took her a little while to leave him to his own devices and get a complete life of her own without him. Once she did that, boy.... was he attracted to her. It was like watching a bee chase the honey. And all the while, she was supporting him when they talked. Their talks gradually got deeper and deeper... and his GF really, REALLY didn't like it. He eventually saw that GF was becoming really high maintenance and somewhat paranoid (um, justifiably).
Anyway, you're doing a good job sticking to the program. Keep it up.
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I can honestly say that I feel like a massive shift has happened. Even in my R conversation with him, it was totally different. Discussing his time with GF totally different. I feel so much more emotionally stable dealing with him. I'm not thinking that I want to act a certain way or say a certain thing because it might make him think of R or find me attractive or whatever. Just being me. Letting him be him. Accepting this new relationship we have.
I also just want to say not to underestimate the power of this. It's incredible... and attractive in a person, friend and potential love interest. It's behavior that says, "Your feelings are important to me." Sexy...
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey