Tad, They can re-connect with the children from replay on in the crisis. I'm glad to see that she is showing an interest in them...it's been a while and I'm sure your sons don't know what to make of it.
As for the civil exchanges, please keep your expectations at zero. She could very well be sensing that you've pulled away and are not reacting to her nonsense and may want to draw you back in. She knows that something has changed within you and is trying to figure it out. You will know, in time, if this change in behavior is permanent for her.
I'm very glad that you are happy w/your new job!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
