Something The Boys And I Have Noticed

[tadpole1025]

Hey everyone one. It is time once again for a brand new thread. My previous one can be found here:

Tad's Overdue Update

The reason why I'm writing is that my boys and I have noticed a difference in the XW. She seems to be connecting or trying to re-connect with them. I've read somewhere that re-connection is one of the phases of MLC, but I thought that came later on. Or could it be that a few of the phases can happen at the same time? Seems to me that I have read that as well. I know that I am not imagining it because all of my sons have noticed it. She seems to also want to have a relationship with S19's GF. When she first left, the boys would go nearly a week without hearing from her. Now she is contacting them each once a day and sometimes more. It was just an observation and wanted everyone's thoughts.

Also, XW and I have hardly had any communication for the past several months. This week, I received two "civil" messages from her in two days.

On Sunday, before I picked up S17 from her place, I got this:

XW: If it is not too much of an imposition, could you pick up S17 at 6:30 instead of 6:00 so he does not rush his eating? I am making Chicken Cordon Bleu and it takes some time. He might be done eating at 6:00, but last time you came 15 minutes early and that would definately rush his eating. I want him to be able to enjoy his "supper." (A word she never used to use.) Thank you.

Me: That's fine.

Then on Monday, I got a weird one:

XW: Do you remember the dentist that we used to go to on 35th Avenue?

Me: No. I sure don't. Sorry.

XW: That's okay. It took a little time, but I found the doctor's name and address because they are no longer there and the business name has changed. I can give you the info if you need it for future treatments and to get your records.

Me: Ok. Thanks.

That was the end of the conversation. It probably doesn't mean anything, but the whole thing just struck me as a little weird.

Also, I believe she began to enter the crisis when her biological father became terminally ill in the Summer of 2010. Now her stepfather, who she was closer to, is also ready to pass away. I can only wonder what kind of impact this will have on her. She flies to New York to see him next weekend.

I would appreciate your thoughts.

As for me, I continue to plug away at my new job. I really do enjoy it and it seems to be a nice change of pace from what I've done in the past.

Thanks for everything.

Tad