Thanks Cadet for your reply. I am gonna try yo follow these suggestions but as you say it will be hard. My biggest fear is the loss of quality time with my kids. Because I work shifts sometimes I may only see them for a couple of hours or an hour before bed each night but I really value and love this time. When she leaves it will be very scripted, regemented days each and that will be hard. The GAL is hard because all of my friends are married with kids and find it hard to spend nights out etc. I do play golf at least one a week and will no longer pu off games so she can do her things. Still cant believe this is happening to me
