He wants a divorce, I don't

[jks]

You are getting THE BEST advice... take it!! Take it!!

And you're so lucky because you're getting it early on in your situation. Just remember, if you're feeling like you need to say something to H, I would post it here first and ask for advice of whether or not to do it. Or how to say it. I have learned this the hard way.

It's amazing because reading your situation and the advice given here has given me such a great perspective. My H is openly having a PA and has fallen in love with OW. He is now moving right along to D. Funny thing is... that I'm realizing now is I have not been able to consistently show him my changes. This is HUGE!! From now on, no more. I am going to rise above. And that's what you need to do. Do not take this as you are right and he is wrong. Take it as you just want to be better for YOU.

The best advice you will hear is... Believe nothing of what you hear and only half of what you see. It is so true. Do you know how many times my H changed his mind? One day he was saying, I want a D and I'm sure of it. The next he was saying, all I want is my family back and I miss you. Even though your H says these things, he most definitely can be torn inside as to whether or not this is what he really wants.

He may seem absolutely sure but I'm telling you, it can change. So go with that. Knowing that it can change and that you're going to focus on you and what will make you feel better about yourself. If that means getting a job, then continue to pursue that.

You can do this!! Keep posting.