I don't think that my new M with my H would be a fantasy. He was there not only 6 months ago. He is a very caring and loving person...just not being that way towards me right now, which still hurts me inside!
I do think the hard times make us stronger..it's what I have been my whole life. Every time something tough hits me, I become that much stronger. My H on the other hand did not have a troubled childhood so I don't think he knows how to fight for things or the people he loves.
The reason I said that thing about looking towards the future is because I know one of the things I need to work on is forgiving and not holding grudges. I need to work on that with all people in my life. That was my H's complaint about me.
Like I said, I am that person who makes changes when things are not going my way or if things are not right in my life. I am a fixer and if something is not right, I figure out why and make it work. My H, on the other hand, does not have this. His way of 'fixing
For instance, my first career choice did not work out in my favor so instead of just staying at my pointless job, I looked for a different career and earned my Master's Degree. My H is kind of at the same point in his life now...he knows his job right now is just a job and is not happy with it, but does not have the drive or whatever it is to figure out what career will make him happy.
M: 27 H: 28 T: 8 yrs M: 6 yrs Sep: 2/18/12 (I have no feelings for you!) EA/PA Uncovered: 2/26/12 H introduces OW to his fam: June H moves ALL stuff out: July
