So sorry to hear the unpredictable craziness continues. When my H and I first separated, I went away for a weekend with my 3 best friends (trip had been previously scheduled and I wasn't missing it). He took the opportunity to come into our home and take not just his things (fine for that), but things he didn't need or even really want. They were items he knew I loved and that I'd be hurt and angry. He also came in the house a time or 2 late at night when I was sleeping to get things and to snoop around.
ncl,
This info about your experience makes me feel like I'm on the right track in dealing with h's recent behaviour. I think he is trying to get me angry. He's not trusting of the changes he can see in me and is trying to make me respond like I used to - by baiting me in ways that he knows will push my buttons.
But, I'm not so much that woman any more....
Great advice about the re-keying! I will certainly look into this. It does feel like so much of a violation to have H in the house on his own now. Strange how things turn out....
I admit I am not great about enforcing boundaries. I've been trying to give him every opportunity to experience our home, and the time with us that he chooses to have, as warm and welcoming. I look at him as suffering a massive breakdown and under enormous financial strain. I realise however that i've got to protect myself and the kids. Just trying to walk the line between being compassionate and being a doormat.
