Hi RoRo, it sounds like we got similar advice from Cheryl (on being more girlfriendly), and I think it's good advice.

I think it's great that you've kept track of your goals (which are very specific and achievable). It's also great to see where you feel like you haven't achieved as much so you have a sense of what to do next. It's important not to beat yourself up about not being as good at sticking to goals 1&2 so long as you can accept that you are human and that you will do better moving forward smile I'm also struggling with some of the goals that are outside of my comfort zone but I know it's important to work on them, so I will be working on them, too. #9 and #11 are also goals of mine and sometimes I have to really stop myself and force it initially because I am so used to not giving H my full attention when he is talking! That's so horrible to think about now!

I too have found reading as a great way to address some issues, way moreso than the MC that we tried. It's funny that I'll read something and think that our MC was trying to nudge us in that direction but she didn't really press it and didn't put it in the framework that some of the books have really helped me with (5LL and How To Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It). Sometimes I feel silly reading books with titles like these but the message is really about working on yourself, which is something a lot of us didn't do enough to keep us from ending up here!

Anyway, I came here to say that it at least sounds like you are on the right track and you know what you need to do for now, so good luck with keeping on that!