2. I will not bring up OW. (Take me now, Jesus!) Yeah, so based on my response to #1, you know I suck at this. REALLY need to shut up. I will come here and say I can't stand her and how much cuter I am than she is, however. LOL
3. I will compliment H so that he feels admired by me. I have been doing this, but not alot. Need to work more on this.
4. I will work on not being sarcastic when talking to H. I think I'm doing okay at this, but I do know when I'm feeling anxious about everything, the sarcasm comes out.
5. I will call my stepson at least once a week. I haven't been doing this, but have been talking to him via FB. I need to do better with this.
6. I will work out at least 3 times a week. Yeah, not so much. With my back acting up, I haven't been doing anything. Need to make myself GO...
7. I will read at least one chapter of a M per night. (been really slack here) So haven't been doing this. Need to. I think it will help me handle my sitch a little better.
8. I will do something just for me at least once a week. Have mostly been doing this. And I don't feel bad about it.
9. I will make sure H feels love from me by my words and actions (speaking softly, eye contact when he’s talking, etc.) I have been doing this. I can tell the eye contact thing is working. Because he's started to do it to me, too.
10. I will ask H to have dinner with me once a week (in or out of the house). Haven't done this but we did go out to the movies this past Sunday. Haven't done that since before the bomb!
11. I will do more active listening (eye contact, stop what I’m doing while he is talking, really listen and not think about my response). This is really hard for me. My mind tends to take over and get ready for the response. Need to focus on this.
12. I will kiss/hug H when leaving or entering the house (this is one of his issues; no problem doing it when leaving…entering the house is a different story) I have done this every day since I posted these goals. Since I started it, he's doing it now too!
So clearly I have a bunch of things to continue to work on. Overall, I'm feeling somewhat good about the progress. Some of these were things that I haven't done in a very long time and frankly are not comfortable to me anymore. But I'm pushin myself to do them. Also, I think reading more of the books will help me work on my anger and resentment. I REALLY need to work on this. I know that if I don't get a handle on it now, there really is no chance for my M.
