Well, what ever your thoughts regarding the M and your W, just understand they are OK at this time and they may change in the future... but for right now... accept what ever thoughts you have on that and work through them...
And no, a co-D M or R is not something that is necessarily "OK". It certainly serves those involved WHILE it serves them... when it stops serving them, they lash out and move on... often only to rebound right back again... kinda like if a M could be bipolar, if you will...
Get yourself the phone number for your local "life line" if you have one... also, maybe check into attending an alanon or a CODA meeting... You will find real world support and resources in those groups...
