My H is still at home but he has moved into the spare bedroom which is good and bad at the same time. I never asked him to move, but it happened after the A was uncovered and I know he was just too ashamed to share a room with me.
H cannot afford to move out. Friends tell me I should kick him out, but I can't do it. Where would he go? Kids would blame me. And frankly it is harder to DB if we live separately.
We occasionally talk, but I do not initiate. He can be moody or joking depending on the day. I will tell you the dynamic has changed. Before I was walking on eggshells around him, but now he seems to be walking on eggshells around me. I don't think he needs to, but I think it's part of the shame.
WH, there's definitely shame on my H's part. He avoids everyone from our church, and most of my friends. This weekend will be the first time he'll be around my family since I found out about his A. I'm interested to see how it goes.
My coach advised me to act like his girlfriend (that's what he sees in OW)so that's what I've been doing. Not sure if it's been working or not. We need to create some kind of DB scale so that we know when something is working and when it's not.
