Optimistic...not hopeless! :)

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Glad that was so helpful! HopingAndPraying, I would go to the town office and get a copy of the tax bill or get it sent to you directly if you're the one living there. He may just ignore it, and you don't want to get into a situation where your tax bill isn't paid. Wait until just before it's due, go in and ask if it's been paid. If it hasn't pay it and keep the receipt in case you need it down the line.

I will share with you what my W wrote to me after we started piecing about her frame of mind while a WAW:

"When i went back to work, i found a lot of opportunities to connect with people which i was really craving. When i think about how I felt about [OM1] or [OM2] it was the connection that was the most attractive thing about both of them. They each, in different ways, were very interested in connecting with me and that satisfied a need I had.

I didn't like the secrecy and didn't enjoy at all the anxiety that went along with it. I've known all along that how I was feeling was not OK and that looking for a connection outside our marriage was wrong. I felt stuck, scared to confront what was wrong with our marriage and scared to confront how wrong my behavior was. So i created a place where i defined us as something I needed to learn to accept and rationalized my transgressions."

So although I was getting a very "business-like" demeanor and no apparent show of regret or remorse, she really did know that what she was doing was wrong, she was scared on many fronts, and instead of facing herself, she just rationalized what she was doing. This eventually caught up with her as it will do with anyone, it's a torturous way to live.

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