Ro I have lived with your sitch before...with H still living in the home. We were like 2 strangers. Never speaking except to fight, having cold silences, and just an air of ickiness! It is tough I will agree. He is not in the home now...thank God, and that has made it easier for me.
What I am learning now is when its time, you will just know.... I will need to re-read your sitch but tell me again, why will he not move out??