I totally agree with your article post. I do have friends who are tell me I should kick H out, along with a bunch of other things. I told them I have my own timeline. They don't understand why I'm doing what I'm doing, but have been mostly supportive.
April & WH - Both of your H are out of the house right? (Need to re-read up on your sitch) My H still lives at home, and mostly acts like nothing is happening. It's very hard to have some hope, but keep expecations low when it's in your face every single day.
I don't know how long I'm willing to wait. I ask myself that every day.