Ladies I will tell you what works for me. I tell myself and others every day that I am doing just fine. I figure eventually it will become truth. And some days it really is. I also GAL A LOT!!! I mean a lot.
Some days I am ready to file and just get it over with, and other days I am like why....he is in another state and living the good life with the OW, so what is the rush on my part. Plus I am in full blown finding a job for next school year mode. That seemed more important than starting a nasty D procedure right now.
I am moving further and further each day away from what was, and envisioning what could be. I just read an article on seeking approval from others. It really rang true. Here is part of it:
Harriet says, "The realization came to me a couple of weeks ago that I have been living out everybody else's expectations for me. It's human nature that my friends want me to heal, and I had tried over time to convince them I was okay. I realize now that I was trying to get their stamp of approval that I was okay and that I was healing. I did this by buying into their expected response of 'I don't love my husband anymore.' What I didn't reckon with is the fact that there is nothing wrong with me still loving my husband. In fact, a year later, a year after we've separated, I still love my husband very much."
You cannot make decisions based on the approval of others. You will only add to your stress and fatigue if you try to live up to the expectations of others. Reset your own expectations to a level you can cope with, and focus your energy on keeping within your own standards. This will help to free you emotionally[i][/i]
We all have our own time-lines. Some are shorter or longer than others. What I am discovering is that I have to be the one to decide what MY time-line is. Not what others think it should be, no matter how well intentioned their efforts are.
Hope that helps a little.
P.S. I am liking me some Thor and Hawkeye as well!!! Made the movie a MUST SEE!!!
