golf mom, Your h is trying to do the exact same thing that mine did. They want their names off of every bill that comes to your home because they think in their minds that they are divorced from you already. It's their way of cutting ties one by one.
What I did was told my xh that I wasn't refinancing the home until we were divorced. I stipulated that I would refinance the home within 90 days of my divorce and would pay him a certain amount from the equity of the home. The amount that I paid him was approixmately 1/3 of the equity and quite frankly, when he told me that was what he wanted, he screwed himself over royally.
Do not allow this man to push you into something you are not ready to do. You are still married and as far as I am concerned, so is he. Speak to your lawyer, but ask about having the refinancing done as part of your divorce package. There is absolutely no need to do it now unless it is in your favor. I do not think that your h is doing this to help you out. Mlcers are only out to help themselves and would not help us out even if we were standing on the street corner int he rain with a tin cup begging for change. I suspect he wants to get another place and as long as his name is on your mortgage, it may raise questions about his application for another place.
Golf mom, do not allow him to rush you into anything!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
