He's done this kind of thing before. He's told me stories about his family prefacing with "you probably dont want to hear this, but..." or something about his work saying "I probably shouldnt tell you this but...". It's rather confusing. He used to tell me that kind of stuff all the time.
wh, This sounds like script to me - at least it sounds like what my h says everyday when he calls me: "Sorry to interrupt you...." then there is a LONG pause, cause I don't know how to respond to this at all, and then he goes on to ask what time he should pick up the kids from school. And he uses this same preface every single time that he rings me.
And, on being civil - I know what you mean.
We've got to hang in there just in case they eventually come out of whatever mental turmoil they're in.
We would never be able to say we did all we could to save our M unless we did hang on and treat them as if they couldn't help what they are doing.
And we would not be able to walk away (if that is what eventually happens) knowing that we had been the best we could be in all of this.
Keep it up and remember the timeline for change is LONG (years, not months maybe). But we're all here for you, anytime you need.
