jb, stay the course man. My advice would be to let her do any D work at this point. Let her bring it up if she wants it.
FaithfulH and some other wise DB oldtimers gave me that advice, it worked for them.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK