My H is driving me crazy. He has contacted me again about refinancing the house. Last Friday he told me that it didn't make sense to continue because of the savings vs the costs incurred. He asked that I look into how quickly I would be able to refinance on my own since he wants his name off the loan ASAP. The next day he sent an email asking me to fax insurance information to the lender so we could finalize the new loan. I ignored his request. Today he has found another lender and thinks that we should go with them. What the heck is going on? He's obsessed! I'm trying to figure out how he gains in this situation. He has to pay me support no matter what. The amount of our mortgage doesn't change that. I'm having a really hard time considering that he might be doing this to help me. It just doesn't fit with this whole scenario. I just replied that I need to know the upfront costs and what the new payment will be. I also said that whatever is decided must be in my best interest. Last, I let him know that I have blocked him (I have blocked him on my phone and his personal email address. He can only send emails from work which keeps contact limited) because I didn't like how our contact has gone. I will not be called names, etc. (he was frustrated with me because I was asking for clarification regarding the house - went as far as to call me crazy and a lier). I stated that I am a genuine, kind person and I was seeking clarification regarding a very important financial decision. I will not allow him to continue spewing at me or use me as a sounding board for his frustration. I have a pretty strong sense of who I am and I will no longer doubt myself because of what his skewed view of me is.
