Stuck in Holding Pattern 2

[25yearsmlc]

Ben,

So sorry you are in such pain. I'm glad you sent the letter although I don't recall seeing it ever.

I know you admitted you didn't put in much energy into "romance" in the m, and that her love language was not yours...(or something like her love "tank" was on empty for a long time when you loved her but didn't "get it"...-I'm paraphrasing obviously)

Anyhow I was hoping you finally told her how you saw your role in the demise of the m. Meaning what YOU would do differently,

I ask this NOT to bash you when you are down --

but to make sure you learn the horribly painful lessons this brutal experience offers. God knows it's the only upside to this crap, and perhaps strengthening our faith in God and the kindness of strangers.

She sounds as if she has done a lot of reflecting (good!)

and I'm glad you held to not bringing up OM.

She needs time to know that you think it's over and you are moving on so she can see things in a new prism-one in which you are not waiting for her...

BUT that things would be better if you two were to be together again.

So my question is,

do you feel SHE KNOWS this^^^?

If she does know, then you have done all you can

and you must let go now, moving forward,

to create a fulfilling happy life for you and your chosen loved ones.

((( )))