I've been trying to figure out why detaching is so hard. Why is that? Is it the intermittent reinforcement, is it because we crave love and hate to lose it? Because losing a relationship makes us feel unsettled and unsafe somehow? A need to control? I keep thinking that if I could figure this out, or if anyone here could, then I would be able to address it and detach more successfully and so would the others going through this mess like I am. Does anyone have any theories on this?
