Hi Wendy! You have to do what is right for you. And, you're right ... you can love without being attached to someone. This is his trip, and if he's going to be an a$$, then it's probably a good idea to get yourself out of his way, as long as you get what's fair and rightfully yours. Keep financial affairs in the lawyer's office.
Seven years ago, I came back to the M that we were going to work on, but he didn't change. I was going to end it 4 years ago, then BAM! ... got cancer. That sure put a spoke in my wheels. I am now 3 years clear of cancer, and now looking forward again. I'm a different person for it.
Good luck with the quilt show.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim