The not so Waste Land

[~ kd ~]

Basically, I'd go with what Starsky said ^^^^... You've come this far and as you said, with everything GOOD that there is, it would might feel horrible to leave "just because" you aren't gettin' sumfin sumfin... right now...

Are you paying attention to her ALL THE TIME? IOW, is your relationship still a matter of you and her having short moments of "togetherness" and you never make the time to just BE THERE for her to listen and validate / affirm?

I'm not sure what you mean by this, but with 2 small kids it's never all the time. I give her space to be her. I still take time to do my things - mainly running, playing Xbox. I'm coaching my kids soccer team. I also do a lot of listening to her about her work and such.

You did mention that you feel she is likely feeling connected in other ways with you, so maybe the above isn't so important as just keeping up with what you are doing, for now... with slight adjustments like random, brief physical (but not sexual, no caresses) touches and dates.

But what I meant by the above is basically:

When your W comes to you to talk, do you just sit, listen, and validate? No offers to fix anything, just truly being there for her and listening to her...

According to some experts, a woman who feels her man will just listen to her... be there for her... be her emotional rock when she's emotionally scattered... apparently that can be very appealing and build that emotional connection that might be necessary to allow for more physical (male oriented) connection...

Maybe just something to think on and do with as you feel necessary...