Yeah, that's what I was thinking...this "journal" gives you feedback. A private journal however you're assured that you'll still have it when you need to go back and remind yourself of all this pain and what you did to move on. A website could be gone at some point, I guess...although this one has been around for awhile.
I wish I would have found this site 4 years ago...or at least started a journal then. When my W and I first separated in '08, I was totally devastated but we almost R too quick...we never did learn how to be alone and thrive and to really miss each other. I worked on myself and as noted feel I have made great strides but I got too comfortable and took it all for granted again. If I would have had this site or at least a journal, I would have had a resource to go back to remind me of the pain...and to keep fighting daily to make it all work. If for some miracle we do R...believe me, I will NEVER take this pain for granted again.
I've told friends that this D talk is the same as coping with death, in my opinion...you seem to go through the same phases of grief...I believe I'm in between pain and guilt and anger and bargaining. Only problem is that (and this may sound inconsiderate so I apologize) in death that person is gone, there's some closure...you know that person will never come back. In D...that person is still around, reminding you almost daily that you will never have them again. I need to quickly get to the upward turn, on my way to acceptance and hope.
Me:44, W: 39 D:16, D:14, D:11(special needs) M:17, T:21+ Bomb:3/18/12 W contacted mediator for D:3/27/12 Separate since bomb Mediation, signed agreement 5/17/12 No talk of D since mediation
