Yeah, understandable. I wish I knew how long this road was but there just isn't a way to tell. No expectations is correct (still easier said than done but getting better)
When was the last time you spoke to your H? You said he'd been around a good bit, is the squirrel back in hiding again? Is he talking with your sons?
Me:45, W:45 S:16 D:13 M:22, T:25 Bomb: July 2010 Putting finances in order for "D" Continue to live in same home-separate rooms