hrm, There is no harm in you keeping in contact w/his father. I wouldn't share any additional details of your conversations w/his father unless it is health related. I suspect that there are some very deep rooted issues between father and son that haven't come to light.
Any and all financial documents should be copied at this time. You need proof of what the two of you had, i.e., especially if he's cashing out retirement funds, etc. If you still have your credit cards, do not destroy them...hold on to them because you can always call to inquire about the balances yourself. If they are joint cards, he can't remove your name off of them if there is a balance. The only way that you won't have access to them is if he reports them lost/stolen and requests new account numbers and the balances transferred to the new accounts and does not provide you with new cards. I did this when my xh went crazy and went on a spending spree after he left.
Stay on your toes and keep looking up!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
