Dawn, what work have you done individually re:your own affair.
It is essential that you have absolutely no contact with the OM (not even virtual contact, like looking at old pictures, letters, notes). You should cut all ties so that he does not have access to you (emails do not reach you and go directly to trash or, better, blocked outright; blocked from seeing you on facebook, etc. etc.).
What work have you done individually to understand your reasons for affairing and the problems with your own boundaries. Have you read books on infidelity? Have you sought IC? Why did you not feel safe in confiding your unhappiness to your H at the time? In sharing with him? Why did you turn outside the marriage?
What has your H told you are the reasons that he is not living with you as a married couple now? Is he hurt? Doesn't trust you? Enraptured with his new GF? Revenge affairs are not uncommon. Does he even still consider himself married to you?
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