your hsband did not look outside the marriage because of things you lacked but because of things he lacked...
he lacked the ability to tell you what he wanted he lacked the ability to communicate with you fully
you are NOT a mind reader
you may not have been fully tuned in... you maybe did not do things in ways that you were always proud of
you can own those things but not your husband's choices
Fig, thank you too for bringing the hard questions that make me think about things in a different way.
I do tend to mind read ALOT. I need to work on stopping that, and owning only my stuff. Looking at myself is hard and not always fun! But I'm learning so much!
