Stuck in Holding Pattern 2

[bustorama]

BTW, Ben, be braced for any range of reactions from your WAS.

The first time I enforced a boundary of sorts with my WAS (I'm not ok with having you on my cell plan anymore if you want to use your phone to talk to men whose motives I don't trust and who I don't want interceding in my R's), I got rage in response.

Another time, I exercised an enforcement, she acted at that moment like she didn't give a rat's ass, like she could care less (W, This sitch is not working for me anymore, I need to begin to move on. I do not want you to contact me at all anymore unless it is an emergency matter concerning the kids). She simply said, ok, that's fine. anything else?

When I exercised what was basically my final enforcement ("W, I am now ready to move on legally. I want to begin divorce proceedings now, so I can really get on with my life."), she began to cry hysterically, retreated to her room and closed the door, begging for another month for things to settle down for her.

Good luck with your talk!