Thanks for asking T, all things considered it went well. Here is the play by play. First I assessed his mood, I lucked out and it was good. So I went downstairs where he was watching tv and asked if I could talk to him for a minute. He paused the movie and I started with I need to bring something to your attention, and it may upset you, but I need to let you know. I proceeded to tell him his father texted me and said his health is going down hill FAST and would like to talk to him. I told him it's totally up to him and I had written down his father's phone numbers and laid them on the desk if he wants them. Also restated it's totally his choice, I'm just relying the message. He thanked me for giving him the message. I went back upstairs.
I was getting ready to watch a movie when I heard him on the phone with someone, which was strange because he NEVER talks on the phone around me anymore. I could count on one hand how many times that has happened in the last 7 months (wow, Friday will be seven months since I've started living in the Twilight Zone....). Well I would bet money he wanted me to hear that conversation and wanted me to get upset. The conversation was about a big shooting match in October, which what I gather from the conversation he is going to be working, it's in Las Vegas (some place he's always wanted to go), I heard him talking about the hotel and didn't know if he was shooting the match or just working it. Whoever he was talking to must have congratulated him and asked him if he needed anything for it,because he thanked them and said he things he is good, can't think of anything he needs. Then they must have asked about things here because he said a very mumbled fine or good or something. The person then must have said something about being jealous of where he was going because he said you can come along. He came upstairs after the conversation and started asking me how much I talk to his dad. I told him not very often, he's called me a couple of times and texts me occasionally. He said, "Well just so you know I have no intentions of contacting him." I said that's up to you, I'm just the messenger. He then went on to say well let me know if he starts harassing you. I told him it would be fine and that wouldn't be necessary.
I was my typical pleasant self all evening and even got a glimpse of the old H at one point. I just can't believe the emotional pain a person is willing to inflict on another person. Going away like that was always something he would want me to do with him, now he won't even tell me about it, except through an overheard phone call. And that just brings me back to no matter how convincing he may be, he's not ok, he's totally nuts right now!!!
So I did look at the phone bill and he had been talking to his mom LOL. He's been doing a lot of talking to her, that's never good, she's pure evil and plants crazy ideas in his head, and currently he doesn't need any help with that. He comes up with a whole lot of crazy on his own!
I'm even more concerned because I saw he has a couple of his retirement statements out and stapled together and sticky notes with passwords on them.... it's A LOT of money and I have this horrible feeling he is going to be cashing all of that out..... how do I not get screwed in that situation? He can't be spending all of that on whatever, marital property, whether he likes it or not..... just sayin' I'm sick of getting screwed over by him, and treated like I don't exist, while he goes out buying toys and doing who knows what else.
Also this morning he asked me to "do him a favor" and put my gym membership on my bank account because he's thinking of closing the 2 credit cards. I asked him if he wanted me to put both of ours on my account. He said he would "have to think about it." Which probably means no. I can NOT believe he is going through with all of this nonsense..... he needs to wake up and see how good he has it. I can not believe how selfish he is being, it's just astounding....... I don't think I will ever be able to wrap my head around going from what we had to this nightmare...... I get that it's his journey and all, but it's just so messed up.
Also, his birthday is Saturday, so I've been expecting an extra helping of behavior that makes the residents of Normalville go WTF?? Since he has made his gun purchases I'm waiting for a car to show up.... either a Camaro or Corvette... just a feeling.... thinking it will be between now and the end of July.... I was right about when he was going to make the gun purchases, so we will see how accurate my theory is on this....
