Here's my ugly secret. When my XH filed the divorce petition, he listed ME as the petitioner. How's that for a true P/A action? I feel like I graduated magna cum laude from the P/A survivor school. Kind of funny that they married overly controlling women. The book I'm reading now explains how this works. I'm finding it interesting all over again.
Betsey- thanks for sharing. I used profanity when I read this. It gave me strength. I realized I am ready to get off this crazy train and get myself healthy. At this point he doesn't seem to want to join me in changing the dynamics.
So I have officially detached. I feel like reading and posting here has really helped me speed up the process. Seeing how hard people here try, seeing how introspective everyone is, including the men, makes me see my H in a different light. He is acting like a helpless victim, and nothing will change about us until he sees that in himself. So I am GAL. I joined a women's only triathlon group. I am making plans with friends. I am taking pictures of my kids again. And I feel good. Thanks to everyone here for providing the inspiration
M 37, H 37 M 10, T 12 S 4 D 2 3/14/12 ILYBNILWY 4/2/12 H consults a L, files nothing 4/26/12 H moves to his new place
