Hoping my marriage can be saved :(

[Maggie3]

I emailed a high school friend that is an attorney today. I am just looking for a recommendation for someone I can consult with. I want to be informed. I also checked some books out of the library about being financially savvy during a divorce.

My H and I had filed a domestic partnership a few years back with his work. When I was finishing grad school and had to do an internship I quit my job and we did this so I could go on his insurance. Someone mentioned that this may mean that in the eyes of the state it may make our marriage longer than when we had our actual wedding, etc. Anyone know anything about this?

He makes more money than me, and has a good 401k, plus no student loans and we just paid off his car. I have a bunch of student loans and a brand new car payment with a nice huge loan (that he was going to help pay towards). Plus, when we bought our home my parents gave us a large sum of money towards the down payment, which I feel I should be entitled to when/if we sell our house. Tomorrow I am taking all of our tax info and photocopying it, just in case. Ugh.